Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Solemn Promises

A few weeks ago, my congregation voted to affirm this statement of their Vision, Mission and Values as part of the Strategic Plan. This statement will hopefully be what frames what comes next. It will shape the goals that will determine the future of our ministry -- which feels like such a critical, finite determination. I have to remind myself that congregations need to do this every five years or so. Because -- especially now -- ministry is changing so very fast. This is really hard to hold onto when folks are tired of hearing the word discernment and just want to do something rather than talk about it. 

Luckily, I haven't heard that in a while. 

But, I still know that I need to do everything I can to make this Vision, Mission and Values feel comfortable and familiar for the next step to be as awesome as I hope it will be. And people need to hear something seven times before they remember it -- which is challenging with the modern day worshiper. So, I'm trying to be creative which means it's time for a prayer station. Last Sunday, inspired by Genesis 28:10-22, I preached this sermon inviting myself and the congregation to consider the solemn promise that Jacob makes to remember God's promises -- and then make that promise ourselves.

After the sermon and a brief moment of silence, in the Open Space that we share through this summer, I said something similar to what is written it says on the framed instructions on the table to the right: 
Make Your Solemn Promise

Consider what you might do or say to most act like God looking toward the future of our church.

Upon the colorful paper stones, write that one thing that you might do or say to act like God.

Affix that stone using the glue sticks provided onto the foundation of our church building as we imagine a colorful future full of God’s promise. 
Upon the table, as folks came forward, they found an image of our building in the center of the table. On either side, there were:
  • colorful "paper stones" like the one that Jacob fell asleep on (Well, kinda like that)
  • black markers
  • glue sticks.
All of this was resting upon the requisite cardboard to prevent markers from bleeding all over the pretty altar cloth. There was another set of instructions under the colorful paper stones which said:

Take one of these colorful paper stones.

Write upon it what you might do or say to act like God and then glue it to the church.
That’s your promise!
The idea being that when you lay down your stone -- as Jacob did -- you make that promise for the future to remember all that God has done and (hopefully) all that God will do. I don't know if it worked for everyone but I did get one response by email that said: 

I also love the art project you offered - and the discussion of promise - for me, writing on my boulder made me recommit to this process that I must admit I'm getting so tired of - and yet that tiredness is also sadness, fear of what the future holds - can't wait till I get to the JOY part!!!!

To which, I gotta say, amen. The end result, which now hangs in the church without any explanation, looks like this. I don't know if I should offer an explanation or if I should just let the experience of creating art and making promises speak for itself. This, for the moment, I'm trusting to God.

Wednesday, July 16, 2014

Doing a New Old Thing

I don't even know where to begin. There are so many thoughts in my head as I try to figure out this whole missional thing. I've had a few conversations with a few different people where my question has been the same. I've asked them very simply: where are the gaps?

And most of these people want to tell me what to do. That I should see where the interest is within the church. That I should be doing that church thing and not wading into these conversations. That's when I have to clear my throat and ask again: where are the gaps? Because I could start there. And, truth be told, that's what my church is doing. They are dreaming about all of the things that they could do or might want to do. But, I want to know what the needs really are. What's missing? Where can we fit into that God-shaped hole?

In each conversation, I haven't taken notes. I wanted to listen. I wanted to be fully engaged. I didn't want anyone to worry about what I was writing down. But, this is problem for me. Because I'm a visual learner and unless I write it down, it doesn't stick. So, I revived an old prayer practice. One you have seen before if you have followed my blog because for a little while there were lost of these prayers like here and here and here. That's when I was still painting and my painted prayers looked like this. But, I haven't done it in years. Four years to be exact until I sat down to try to think about these conversations. And this came out.

I turned the page and what came out was this.

I hesitate to post these because they have names and information that is pertinent to this community. I don't want anyone to think that I'm not supportive of these people and their institutions. But, these are the things that I've heard. These are the things I'm wondering about and how I'm trying to prayerfully ask others into conversation so that we can discover the gaps -- and maybe even try to fill them. Maybe. But, right now these prayers live as questions. Questions that I'm trying to talk to God about and waiting to hear what she says.

Tuesday, July 1, 2014

Being Missional

Last year, the Olympia Presbytery asked our churches to read a book. And I tried. Really I did. Especially after one of my very sage and extremely well-read church members bought me a copy of Alan J. Roxburgh and M. Scott Boren's Introducing the Missional Church: What it is, Why it Matters, How to Become One. But, I hated it. So it sat on my shelf half-read for the better part of a year until I decided to pick it up again when I started to get excited about this missional transformation thing they keep talking about around here in the Presbyterian Church (USA).

According to Roxburgh and Boren, missional is "an invitation for people to consider a new way of being church." That sounds like anything remotely related to church right now. We're trying to figure out some new way of doing the same old thing and there are thousands upon thousands of buzzwords that try to define what that thing is. Missional is just another one of those silly words that pretentious pastors say to each other and then nod earnestly. But, buzzwords don't make a leader.

Still, Roxburgh and Boren elaborate that this missional thing "was intended to create a space in which … a new imagination for what God wants to do in and through the church." 

This still isn't saying much to me. And perhaps this is why I gave up reading this book last year. I was frustrated by this thing that was trying to define itself by what it is not. It's not mission trips or some new outreach program. It's not a label to describe a new model for church growth or some newfangled way to reconfigure the way our church's staff, building or government works. Great. What the heck is it then? Roxburgh and Boren describe it as a river where one wades in to find a way to flow with the current so that it's more like a way of being. And it's this that interests me about being missional. Because we need to figure out what it looks like to be ourselves. We need our own way of being that isn't caught up in buzzwords but in the ways that we engage the world. It's why I asked the church to read David Kinnaman's unChristian this July in our Summer Reads. Because we bump into these attitudes all of the time and it's easy to dismiss them or argue with them or insist, "Oh, but we're not like that." But, maybe we're wrong. Maybe they (those outsiders out there) know us better than we know ourselves. Right?

So, I'm testing the theory. This summer, I'm trying to enter into as many conversations I can where church people don't really go. We might like to go there and get their people to come to our church, but that's not my motive. I'm not interested in growing the membership. I'm interested in how Christians live out their faith missionally. Or maybe without the buzzword. I'm asking the same question each time: what are the spiritual needs in this place? I'm trying really hard not to ask how we  can help because right now I'm interested in the stories. I'm trying to understand where God is moving in this place at this time.

Thinking of You

Last week was a bad week.

I hit the third month of the deployment at just the same moment that my country decided to send troops back to Iraq. I didn't handle this well for reasons that I think are obvious. Because the man I love is over there and my head races to really scary places. So, naturally, this led to me picking a fight with him on FaceTime. Because that's how mature people handle their frustrations. They place the blame exactly where it doesn't belong... and get a little bitchy.

Needless to say, this was a bad move. And it made the week worse so that I came home one night to fall into a puddle of frustrated tears. And I wanted the man I love to know how upset I was. Not because I blamed him. Not exactly. More so because I wanted to fall into arms and ugly cry on his shoulder. But, that's not possible because he's deployed. So, I sent him a message and told him I was feeling.

I didn't hear from him for two days. So, I assumed that he was mad. Or annoyed. Or something. And then, I got a text message saying that someone loved me because flowers had just arrived at the church. Thinking of you, said the card. Maybe that's all I needed to know. That despite all of the distance and missed calls, he is still thinking of me. That our love will get through this.

Tuesday, June 17, 2014

Flat Jesus

So, let me start with a confession. Last summer, my first call was in the midst of a pastoral search. They were looking for their next Senior Pastor and I was curious. My boundaries are uber high and I still want to honor that distance so they can get about this next chapter in their life. And I in mine. But, that doesn't stop me from stalking their website and gleefully reading the announcement of their next settled pastor and then going to find out every thing I can about her. (Hey. I'm nosy.) That is how I found myself on the website of the church this newly called pastor was about to leave and I saw -- for the very first time -- this thing called a Flat Jesus.

I pinned it to Pinerest and raved about it to my Director of Children and Youth Ministries. Because I thought this was awesome. Who wouldn't want to carry Jesus around with them every where they go all summer long?

Certainly, I would. Because I love that reminder at the end of Matthew's Gospel where Jesus tells the disciples, "And remember, I am with you always, to the end of the age" (Matthew 28:20, NRSV). I never tire of hearing these words. I always need this reminder. I need to know that the presence of Jesus Christ is always with me -- and it just might help to have a little carbon copy of this likeness in my pocket to help with that reminder.

So, this summer, we gave our church members (kids and adults) a laminated Flat Jesus to take with them on all their summer adventures. We talked about the many places that we will go and how Jesus will go with us there too. This was, however, one week after Ascension Sunday when I had stared up at the ceiling asking the kids where in the world Jesus went. This was not forgotten by one of my kids who had some HUGE christological questions in the middle of the Time Especially for Children that I really wasn't ready to answer. Perhaps because as much as I want to believe in that wisdom in Matthew 28:20, the experience and practice of living in liturgical time really messes with my head so much so that I ask from the pulpit, "Where is Jesus?" I'm happy to ask that question and I'm thrilled that this kid pushed me on it -- even if I didn't give his question the justice it deserved.

Me and Flat Jesus at the Hospital
Because the pictures have already started to appear. We've seen Flat Jesus on planes and picnics. We've seen Jesus go to a dance recital, a restaurant and a hospital. We even got a picture from one of our RVing members who doesn't have an actual Flat Jesus in their hands but sent a photo of their travels with the note: Flat Jesus may not be in this picture, but God certainly is! To me, that's the whole point. 

In a world where a media mogul begins a campaign to encourage people to Just Say Hello, because we have somehow become so disconnected from our neighbors and our communities, we need something to hold us together. We need some way to be silly and playful and remember that we're all in this together. And that God is with us too. That, to me, is the whole point of Flat Jesus. It's a way to keep a congregation bonded together during the summer months.

But, it does more than that. Because it also allows an opportunity for public witness which progressive Christians tend to hate. We don't want to offend anyone so we don't talk about our faith. We don't want to sound like those other Christians so we miss a whole bunch of opportunities to talk about why the experience following Jesus Christ really does matter in our lives. And it happens on Facebook where every friend can see (provided the algorithm fits with their interests) what you've posted even if it's on the church wall. It's a way of offering a connection to a church that's willing to have a little fun and take Jesus with them to the end of the age.

Monday, June 9, 2014

Care Packages & FaceTime

It hasn't quite been two months since the man I love deployed. I marked the dates last night on my calendar because I couldn't believe that it hadn't yet been two months. Because it feels like an eternity.

After three beautiful pastoral visits yesterday, and a little mucking around in my garden, I put the finishing touches on a care package that will go in the mail today. There are things that he asks me to send -- things that he misses or suddenly discovers he needs. Or sometimes things he just wants. (I have yet to answer his request for freshly baked cookies.) This is the second package I'm sending in these two months that he's been gone. And in these two packages, I've noticed that  most of the items are some little way for me to tell him I love him. It's a strange thing to do with an object. Or a series of objects. For how do you express all of your emotion in an inanimate thing? Can it tell the story of how you feel? Is that even possible?

But, then again, aren't there stories in every object? I send a pack of gum in each package because he always asks for gum and I never have it. And so, he has made me carry gum in my purse just for him. Now, there is no gum in my purse but it goes in the mail to tell that story that the object -- all by itself -- might not be able to tell. Because, really, who is going to think about that story when they see a pack of gum? I sure as hell wouldn't. And yet, it's that story that causes me to carefully add some gum to each care package.

I get to see him almost once a day… usually. He appears on my phone through the magic of FaceTime (which for some reason works better than Skype). I tell him all about my day and he can't tell me much. It's classified, you know. But, I'm learning something about this. Because I always thought it was absurd when someone would relay every detail of their day. I always assumed that no one would want to know that many details. Or maybe this is just because I'm an introvert. But, this simple act of sharing bonds us. It cements a relationship. And it is so hard without it. You have to find other ways to make that connection.

This is hard for me. I'll admit it. I really don't like it. I remember walking with an engaged couple toward their wedding day. They had just read The Five Languages of Love and they just loved talking about it. He was one style. She was another. I honestly don't remember which because the self help mumbo-jumbo irritated me. But, now, I kinda want to read the book. Maybe I'll even succumb to reading the military version. (Ew.) Because I know now that my love language is #5. I need physical touch. And you know what I can't have for nine months? Physical touch. So I'm dabbling in these other languages and feeling completely and totally confused.

I heard this wisdom preached yesterday. My conference minister delivered the good news of Pentecost by reminding us that when we are surprised and confused, that's when God is really at work. That's when God is really up to something. This I believe.

Wednesday, June 4, 2014

Big and Little

I am constantly pegged as an extrovert. It's not just church people. Even the man I love thinks that I'm an extrovert. But, they are wrong. Yes, even the man I love is wrong. It doesn't matter how comfortable I seem in new contexts or how I get up and talk in front of people all of the time, I am still an introvert. I can be all about community and seem outgoing but then I hit a wall that makes me want to run away from all of the people. Ask my friend Teri. How she loves to tease me on this fact. Because she knows that I am such an introvert. And she knows this.

I know this. But, it's a struggle sometimes because when I talk about church -- when I talk about why I love church -- it's this big experience where everybody is there and everyone understands and everyone feels the same fire. It's Pentecost but it's an introvert's hell. I know this because as much as I can rise to these occasions, if I were attending, I would be dying in the corner. I would be complaining and saying things like, "not everyone feels that way" and "stop speaking for me." Because I hate when people do that. And it drives me crazy when people insist that I engage in a certain way. But, I do this to people all of the time. Because I want to grasp and hold onto this big idea of community.

And in the church, it's big. Everybody is a part of it. Everyone has a place. No one is turned away so that we create these big, open spaces where lots of collaboration can happen. Our offices still look like cubicles, usually. Instead, we have fellowship rooms and social halls and even classrooms that do this really big thing seeking community. But, maybe what we really need is little.

I've been thinking about this a lot this week. At church, we've been doing this thing in worship where individuals in the congregation have an opportunity to lead their favorite part of worship. It's an idea I borrowed from Nadia Bolz Weber's Pastrix. It's something her congregation does and I loved the idea of it. I loved the idea of everyone having a part and everyone having a chance to lead. But, maybe what  we really needed is little. Because it never felt quite comfortable. It never felt like it fit quite right and maybe that was me. Maybe I didn't lead it well. Maybe I didn't welcome folks into the experience enough. Or maybe we just needed more time to practice this new way of leading worship together. Or maybe what I've always heard is really true. People come to worship in search of a quiet place. They want a space for reflection and meditation even though they say they want joy (which always sounds big and loud to me). That's what I need when I worship. I don't want something that infuses me with lots of energy by getting me up to dance and sing. I want to sit still for a while and have a space to be. (Never mind how this puts me at odds with myself in the ways that I lead worship. That's a whole other blog post.) Maybe what we really need is little.

That's what I read in Quest for Quiet about redesigning office space for more quiet. It's what I heard a colleague in the 2030 Clergy Network voice this week when she wondered about a member of her own congregation who wanted more space for a quiet space to collaborate. Nothing big but something little.